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Yogi Maharaj Dr. Malik our in-house Editor (since 2003) is a recognised International expert and authority on the subject of yoga. He has been practising, researching and studying this discipline for over 40 years.

He is an accredited Yoga teacher specialising in kundalini, hatha and laya yoga. Our Editor is an advanced practitioner and has experience of many styles of yoga. He has also been teaching for over 20 years and is fluent in several languages, including Hindi, Punjabi, Gujrathi, Persian and Urdu.

Q&A Yogi Maharaj Dr. Malik

Q: Apart from practical tantric exercises is there anything I and my wife can perform to help improve our sexual prowess and of course energy levels? -Ian Whitehouse, New York

Yes definitely. There are different types of yoga exercises that can be performed with your partner to help improve and strengthen the connection between you two. These include pranayama (breathing), mudras (hand gestures), and meditation practices. Some of the benefits of performing the exercises listed below include a boost to your overall wellbeing, health and energetic connection as well as strengthen of the body. These exercises will also make energy rise through the chakras, which as you know are the energy centres in the body. The prana will also be activated. This energy will, among other things, help to increase your longevity and stamina and it will improve your physical body.


Exercise 1

  • Sit down into the padmasana position (lotus pose), if this is too difficult sit cross-legged instead.
  • Relax. Your partner should assume the same position as you. You are supposed to be a reflection of each other. You should keep your eyes closed when performing this pranayama exercise.
  • You should not speak to each other but concentrate on your own breath for the first few minutes. Feel the breath as you inhale it; think of the weight and the movement of your breath.
  • There are two ways to breathe; one through the nose and the other through the mouth. Each has a different effect and impact on the body. In Kundalini Yoga for instance, deep nasal breathing is known to awaken the Kundalini energy residing at the first Chakra centre.
  • In this exercise, breathe through your nose and concentrate on the breath and feel it enter the nostrils and then fill up your chest. Take long deep breaths.
  • After at least ten minutes of deep breathing, you should then concentrate on your partner’s breath. When you inhale imagine that you are taking in your partner’s breath. When exhaling, imagine that you are exhaling all the negativity within you. Your partner should synchronise his/her breathing with yours.
  • The deep inhalations will relax your mind and body. Furthermore, prana will have been activated and moved through your respiratory system cleansing it. Moreover, your inner energy will connect with that of your partner.


Exercise 2

  • In this exercise you should lie next to your partner staring upwards to the ceiling.
  • Keep your arms close to your body and keep a distance of a few inches between you and your partner. At some stage in this exercise, you will sense the power of the energy between the two of you.
  • Keep your eyes open and fixate your gaze on a point in the ceiling. Concentrate on that (whatever it is – it could be a tile in the ceiling, some paintwork, some space). While you concentrate on the point inhale a deep breath and hold it for a few seconds and then exhale it. When you inhale your partner should exhale their breath.
  • When inhaling you should imagine, while concentrating on the spot in the ceiling, that you are filling and holding your partners breath. Your partner should imagine the same thing.
  • When inhaling imagine that you are tending and caring for your partner’s breath. Your partner should do the same thing.
  • This exercise will connect and attune you both and enable the energy flow between you to increase recharging and refreshing you.
  • The staring at the ceiling exercise is in fact a form of the trataka exercise. It is an extremely beneficial exercise that is used by yogis generally for increasing psychic powers, but also to improve the physical body and still the mind.
  • Trataka can actually be conducted on other objects as well. You will see in a later exercise that that you can conduct trataka on your partner to strengthen the energy bond between the two of you.

Note on Trataka generally:

Trataka can be conducted on different objects including yantras (pictorial descriptions of mantras) or a shape. One of the best ways is to perform this is on a candle flame. It’s an ancient exercise for strengthening the eye on a physical level and, on an esoteric level, this is used to access higher spiritual states as it is a tried and tested technique of meditation. The outcome or results of performance depend on the quality of practice, supervision and duration.

On a basic level trataka on a candle flame or object can be done safely for short bursts of time. Anything that requires days of practice
is something done under direct training of an experienced guru (teacher).
The Hatha Yoga Pradapika says that the practice of trataka helps to destroy the diseases of the eye and removes laziness (sloth). It also encourages this exercise to be kept a secret and describes it as a box of gems. So how is trataka performed? The text says one should be in a calm state and steadily gaze at a small mark until the eyes are filled with tears. Then you can elaborate and prolong the trataka exercise by closing the eyes and visualising the object or flame within you at certain chakra points.

Light a candle and place on a box/table so that it is at eye level. Sit down cross legged (padmasana – lotus), or on knees. Keep hands on knees if you can. Steadily gaze at the candle flame for few seconds. Don’t stare hard but keep attention focused on the candle flame. Keep this steady gaze for as long as you can.


Exercise 3

  • You can conduct trataka on your partner. In this exercise you have to either sit or lie down facing each other.
  • One of you should conduct the trataka (gazing), the other should keep their eyes closed.
  • In this exercise you have to concentrate on your partner and fixate your gaze upon them.
  • Stare at them for at least 15 minutes. Fixate your gaze on your partner – appreciate their existence.
  • When conducting this exercise, you should breathe as normal and your partner should inhale and exhale slowly and deeply.
  • When you have finished the trataka on your partner, reverse the roles and allow them to perform the same on you.
  • This exercise will strengthen the relationship between partners.

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